Retraining Our Thoughts for Lasting Brain Positivity
Updated: May 25
"I am not good enough to go for my dream job. I will just be rejected."
"That person will never be attracted to me I'm not good looking enough."
"I can't join a gym yet, I'm not fit enough"
Automatic negative thinking gets to the best of us but when it becomes a habit and spirals out of control it can not only impact our confidence but our entire life trajectory.
Many of us live in these distorted thinking paradigms without even realising it and we get stuck!
So how do we start bringing these limiting self beliefs into the daylight and stop subconsciously believing these destructive thought patterns?
One way I have started bringing these into the light is to recognise that these negative thought patterns are simply 'the stories we tell ourselves'. Often there is no truth to them and we create stories as a defence mechanism to keep us safe. The problem with this is that there may be no real threat looming and just at the possibility of threat we have validated unfounded feelings because we initially felt unsafe.
Once we start to see the truth behind these stories we can change the entire shape of our lives!
Henry Ford once said "whether you think you can or whether you think you can't you're right."
The power of believe is immense!
So how do we start recognising this negative internal dialogue? I like to journal and keep track of the thoughts. Psychologist believe that we have as many as 60,000 thoughts per day—and 90% of these are repetitive!
With this many receptive thoughts we might as well just create a tally chart to keep track.
That way it would save muscle power and create an organised structure. Once we notice the reoccurring thoughts we can reverse and reframe them.
Here are some examples...
If your negative internal thoughts are:
When I’m successful they will see how valuable I am.
You might frame it for ...
"I am perfect whole and complete just as I am."
Abraham Hicks talks about manifesting coming from not only the thoughts we think but the emotions we attach to them. So to give it some real welly and start building those neural pathways we might add a positive emotion to the new positive thought to create sustainability.
Science has shown that by taking a moment to focus on a positive emotion, we not only start building a foundation for safety and certainty, but release dopamine into the brain. This positivity hormone helps regulate our mood, enhance sleep, appetite, digestion, learning ability, and memory.
So in addition to reframing old thought paradigms we can also become happier, healthier human beings.
We can check progress by thinking about how these negative thoughts patterns impact our lives and look at how we want to feel after the work. Some of the changes my clients have made after this work are as follows:
Self-dialogue is kind and compassionate.
Clearer boundaries are set and kept.
Triggers to old reactions change.
Intuition is trusted and more easily recognisable.
Difficult emotions pass quickly and with ease as we surrender to them.
Opposites are accepted and valued. Without good we can’t have the bad.
Other people’s trauma is not taken as a personal attack.
Greater conscious awareness and inner peace occurs.
We don’t always realise that the power of our thoughts is EVERYTHING!
Shakespeare once said "Nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so."
When we can take control over our thoughts, learn that we create stories as a result of our social conditioning and fear prejudices we can reframe the old patterns of thinking into ones of lasting positivity.
What are you waiting for? Let's start today!