Updated: Jun 12
It was a cool, late night in the summer of 1994. The streets threatened an air of restlessness as we sliced through the night air on high alert. My mother and I sat shamelessly in her dishonourable green Skoda as we navigated awkward conversations to avoid the reality of what we might find. We spoke about Blur’s new song Parklife or how funny we found the movie ‘Four Weddings and a Funeral” - anything to distract ourselves from the impending question – Is he dead or alive?
My brother had run away from home again, and at the tender age of 13, we wondered how he could survive alone. He had become involved with a local drug dealer and his gang members, seeking acceptance and admiration or perhaps a distraction from our tumultuous home life. Despite their influence, my mother fought back with all her maternal love.
In that long night, hope diminished as we searched every nook and cranny, halting our efforts in surrender and emptiness. It was in that moment that I realized the weight of responsibility I had taken on at just 15 years old. I became the 'fearless protector,' putting others' needs before my own. Unbeknownst to me, this experience stored beliefs that shaped my thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, leading me to attract challenging relationships and neglect my own needs.
However, from this awareness, a seed of resilience sprouted within me. I recognized that my needs mattered, and I deserved to be loved fully and completely. With this newfound understanding, I embarked on a journey to transform fear into resilience and start living freely.
I observed my thoughts of unworthiness and surrendered to them. I reframed my internal dialogue, replacing old thought patterns of not being lovable or deserving with empowering statements of self-worth. I took responsibility for my actions, seeking to break free from negative patterns and apologize where needed. I planted new seeds of strength, resilience, and compassion, nurturing them through daily affirmations and intentions.
By recognizing that my perception of myself and others stems from within, I reclaimed my power. I understood that societal conditioning could no longer define me. I cultivated a daily practice of reframing negative thoughts, questioning my beliefs, and consciously choosing new perspectives. I embraced the awareness that my past experiences, no matter how painful, were valuable lessons that shaped my journey.
Fear no longer holds me captive; it has become a catalyst for growth and resilience. As I stand on the other side of my transformation, I invite you to embark on your own journey. Uncover the paradigms that shape your beliefs and challenge them. Rewrite the narrative of your life, aligning it with the truth that your needs matter and you deserve love in its purest form.
Embrace the process of self-discovery and liberation. Observe your thoughts without judgment, practice gratitude for the lessons learned, and consciously reframe negative patterns. Take responsibility for your thoughts, beliefs, and behaviours, reclaiming your power to create a life rooted in authenticity, strength, and compassion.
Step boldly onto the path of turning fear into resilience and start living freely. In this journey, you will find the essence of who you truly are, unlocking boundless possibilities and embracing the fullness of life. Trust in the power within you, and let resilience be your guiding light on the path to living a life of freedom.